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Alex with legos

I need

to be with someone who accepts me just the way I am

and  loves me still.


I need

to spend the whole day

just doing not much of anything with this person

 giggling, laughing, being silly

doing what strikes our fancy at the moment

not even needing to leave the house


I need

to know I'll have this person's

complete and utter attention

promising to do the same for him

entering into his world completely

learning lessons hidden in play

forging connections

unbroken by time


And, I think, that this is what love means,

or at least, partly so.

Twit Lessons: Just Create


Very young children create with abandon. It's just what they do.

No fuss about having the "perfect" materials at hand. No fuss about whether or not they need a class on their method, how to best use materials, etc.

Nope, they just create.

I started to type "No fuss, no muss," but, there's definitely a lot of muss, a touch or two of chaos, and materials scattered everywhere once they've served their purpose.

Materials matter to adults. So many times I've heard muttered, "If only I had (blank) I could create a wonderful (blank). Not true.

Children simply make it work.

Twit 1 and Twit 2 decided they wanted to play a game earlier today, so off they went to scrounge materials.

1 piece of poster board, some washable markers (This grandma isn't dumb.), and they got to work. Twit #1 created a game board with suggestions frequently offered by Twit 2.

He didn't worry about straight lines. He didn't worry about his mistakes. He didn't worry if anyone would like it.

In fact, he didn't worry one bit. He just sat and drew.

Meanwhile, aside from offering suggestions, Twit 2 hunted for playing pieces. Various Happy Meal characters and an assortment of Super Heroes soon formed 2 teams. dice to be found.

Twit #1 grabbed some craft sticks, numbered them, and found a container for them.

The two of them commenced happily playing a game that only they understood.


I'm not sure who won, or if they even finished the game. Neither claimed victory when their parents arrived for pick up.

What did get shared was the game board, the action figures that formed the two teams, and the process delightfully discussed.

No high tech.

No plugs of any kind.

Just an assortment of "rag tag" materials and two young fellows who simply wanted to play.

Lesson learned: Just get started with what you have and figure out a way to make it work.