When we were at the beach 2 weekends ago, they closed off Main Street for a block party. A live band kept things stomping, and the people took to the streets. No one cared what they looked like...and, to put it kindly, there were no would be contestants for "So, You Think You Can Dance." But, boy were they having fun! My husband kindly offered that nearly everyone had a beer in their hands. I countered with the fact that he was on the sidelines "watching." Guess who was having more fun? Not that I'm condoning drinking. Not by any means. I grew up with many an alcoholic in the extended family. These guys were just a bit "loose limbed."
So, why do we care so much about what others think? When do we lose that wild inhibitation we had as kids? You know...the stuff that lets us dance down the aisles of the supermarkert to the muzack being piped through the store?
Patti DIgh writes: "I have come to believe our loss of spontaniety is more about judgement than control. To the extent that I am willing to sit in the judgement of other people, I myself am being judged. If I stop judging other people, I free myself from being judged, and I can dance!
Easier said than done, huh? But, we're losing out on so much until we do. And, life's just too short as it is. Why give up on some of the joy that's out there to grab?
Not so long ago my sixth graders found themselves determning the mean, median, and mode for length of CD tracks. I had grabbed the data off of a cd by "The Puppini Sisters." They begged to be allowed to hear it. I wasn't sure; this is a cd of 40's type music! And, yes, would they judge me as being totally out of it? But, I relented, and I put it on during their test. And, as I watched, toes began tapping. Pencils kept time on the desk as they pondered the problems. Periodically, one would turn around and just grin at me. And, after the last test, they began to hum along. Trust me, hearing several sixth grade boys harmonize to 40's music is worth every penny.
My wish for all of you is that you find some time soon to dance!